Straight Talk About How to Survive Heartbreaking Grief

  Straight Talk about How to Survive Heartbreaking Grief Heartbreaking grief is not the same thing as depression, but they often go together. Grief is the process you go through after loss of any type. Death of a loved one causes grief for sure, but a move, the loss...

I Got Punched in the Face This Weekend

I Just Keep Showing Up After years of sitting on the sidelines while my boys took Tae Kwon Do lessons, I finally joined them. Several nights per week for the last year, instead of sitting on the bleachers with the other moms chatting, I'm wearing my own white dobok....

When Your Daughter Wants to Dye Her Hair Blue

When Your Daughter Wants to Dye Her Hair Blue By Kiersten (age 17) and Sara (age *the mother*) Borgstede When our daughter Kiersten was 13 and in the 8th grade, she started BEGGING us to dye her hair blue. My first reaction was "No way, Jose," and figured that would...


This is 40

This is 40

  THIS IS 40 by Jeff Marshall For some reason, reaching 40 always seemed like a big deal to me when I was growing up. I remember being an overly dramatic youngster, claiming how I would never make it to 18, and then to 21, and then to 30… By the time I reached 30...

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Will You Improve Your Decision Making?

Each day you face hundreds of decisions. Some decisions are easy. White shirt or purple? Sandwich or yogurt? Other decisions are much harder. Which school should my children attend? When should I retire? Yet all decisions carry value. Decisions are exhausting. The...

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I Used to Have Order

I Used to Have Order

I Used to Have Order by Jeff Marshall I used to have order in my life. Everything was in its place. The floors were swept, the dishes were put away, the toilet water sparkled like Lake Titicaca in all of its vast splendor. Someone once walked into my house and...

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