The Holy Weigh: Christian Weight Loss Program for Women

The Mission Behind The Holy Weigh

If you’re exhausted from the shame cycle of losing weight only to gain it back again, feeling like a failure, and hiding your true self from the world, then you’re in the right place.

The $72 billion diet industry has convinced us that we’re broken, and that all we need is the next detox, new program, or quick fix they’re pushing…

While these may temporarily drop the number on the scale, it’s not long before the pounds creep back up because they don’t address the root problem.

That’s the trap I found myself in for most of my life.

For as long as I can remember, food has been a struggle. 

It’s like my internal hunger dial was broken. 

If everyone else experienced hunger on a scale of 1-5, mine was set to 100. 

Looking back at photos, I was already overweight as a toddler, then carrying extra pounds as a kid in school, and plus-sized in high school…

One of my most intense childhood memories is sitting on the kitchen floor (a brown and gold checkered carpet – yes carpet in the kitchen, this was the 80s) binging on Little Debbie’s snacks I had swiped from the stash for my brother’s lunches. 

I avoided physical activity at all costs. I figured being good at sports was for the people who weren’t smart enough to do well in class.

All of my immediate family was overweight – my grandparents, aunts, and uncles on both sides. 

I figured obesity was in my genes, and there wasn’t much I could do about it. 

Yet I continued to pursue being thin as the ultimate dream.

I had my stuff together in other areas of my life, so why couldn’t I get it together with my weight?!

I went on diets, often losing 30, 40, or even 50 pounds, but eventually the pounds came back, and when they returned, they brought friends.

By my early 30s, I was 100 pounds overweight. 

Kohl’s didn’t have sizes big enough for me. 

I was a compulsive overeater, a binge eater, and a secret eater. I was addicted to fast food, junk food, and anything with sugar.

I loved and hated food.

Food was my best friend and my worst enemy.

Then, early one morning, my elementary-school daughter came down the steps to get ready for school and caught me eating ice cream out of the carton. “No fair,” she said. “Why do you get to eat ice cream for breakfast and we don’t?” 

That’s when I knew I was passing along my unhealthy behaviors to them. I tried to hide it, but they saw how I used and abused food.

Something had to change.

They also saw my abusive relationship with dieting, which was just as harmful. On and off, on and off Weight Watchers. Counting calories by keeping notebooks with ledgers and memorizing the calorie count of every food in the book…

Then there was befriending the rowing machine. Jane Fonda, Richard Simmons,  Cher – we had our flings.

This was the Biggest Loser era. We all thought that if only we had Jillian Michaels screaming, we could sweat away the pounds. The trouble was, I could always out-eat any exercise.

There was some scary stuff I’m embarrassed to talk about. I went to a super-expensive med spa for hundred-dollar vitamin shots. I borrowed every diet book in the library and read them like they were holy grails. I even found myself in a faith-based weight-loss cult that promised a weigh down solution. 

But nothing stuck.

That’s when I realized that food wasn’t the problem. Ice cream has never put a gun to my head. My relationship with hunger was the problem. 

Nothing I ate could fill the deep void I felt inside me.

No amount of sugar could fix my Soul Hunger. 

It wasn’t until I started to address my thoughts and triggers that I found healing and finally gained control. 

This allowed me to start making better food choices more consistently until I no longer made “overweight” my core identity. 

I slowly stepped into the woman God was calling me to be. 

It took over 3 years. I hit several plateaus. I fell off the wagon and off-roaded from time to time. But I got back on track. 

By God’s power and grace, I lost 100 pounds, and I’ve maintained that now for over 20 years.

I didn’t white-knuckle my way through another diet. I didn’t rely on willpower or shame myself into submission.

Instead, I discovered three truths that changed everything:

1. First, I learned to listen to my HUNGER. Not the ravenous toddler brain screaming for donuts, but the quiet, mature adult wisdom of what my body actually needed. I learned the difference between food hunger (which can be satisfied with a meal) and soul hunger (which no amount of ice cream can fix).
2. Second, I built HABITS. Not another restrictive meal plan I’d abandon by Tuesday, but sustainable rhythms that honored both my body and my spirit. Simple practices that worked WITH my life, not against it.
3. Third, I allowed God to heal my HEART. Because the real problem was never the ice cream in the freezer—it was the void I was trying to fill with it. The shame I carried. The broken hunger dial I’d inherited. The lies I believed about myself.

This is how I’ve maintained my goal weight for the last two decades. I’m positive I’ll keep it off for the rest of my life because I’m no longer hungry for something food can’t fix. 

That’s when The Holy Weigh was born.

Not another diet. Not another quick fix. 

This is unlike any program you’ve seen before because it’s a grace-based approach that treats you like the complete, capable woman you are, not a failure who just needs more willpower. 

In fact, after working with thousands of women with food struggles, I can confidently tell you that they are some of the most intelligent, hard-working, dedicated women I know. 

This method addresses your whole self—body, mind, and soul—because sustainable transformation requires all of these to become a Soul Full Sister.

It’s the same method I’ve used with 50,000+ women who were right where you are now. Women who’ve tried everything. Women who thought they’d always be the fat friend. Women who were worried about being the biggest one at the party or fitting into the restaurant booth.

Women who are now living in bodies they feel at home in.

Not because they found the perfect diet, but because they found grace, community, and sanctuary.

Now it’s your turn. 

But you don’t have to do it alone this time. 

We are ready to welcome you in, then guide you day by day, one bite at a time. Progress over perfection.

That’s how you’ll get to your goal weight with The Holy Weigh, and confidently stay there for a lifetime.

Our Mission

Our mission together is to help chronic dieters reach their goal weight & maintain it for life without shame or starvation by feeding their Soul Hunger to conquer their cravings.

The Holy Weigh Values

The Holy Weigh Manifesto

As chronic dieters, we’ve restarted more times than we can count.
We know every plan, every point, every promise that failed us.
But no matter how many times we’ve been let down, we keep getting back up. 

We believe the women who restart are the strongest in the room.
Every restart isn’t proof we’re broken. 
It’s proof we refuse to give up on ourselves. 
It’s proof we have more faith than fear.

We weren’t failing, we were just fighting the wrong battle. 
Diet culture lied to us.
They taught us to starve our soul while obsessing over our stomach. 
That’s why the weight came back, we never satisfied the deeper hunger. 
We’re hungry for something food can’t give us. 

Diets feed bodies but starve spirits. 
That’s why the weight returns.
That’s why shame never works.

This emptiness we feel inside is soul hunger.
Hunger for peace.
Hunger for love. 
Hunger to feel whole.
It’s not a craving but a cry for Soulfullness.
To live in alignment with who God created us to be.
This is The Holy Weigh.

We believe cravings are a compass, not a curse.
Hunger is a signal, not a sin.
And when we feed our soul first, our body finally releases what no longer serves us.
That’s how we are reclaiming our lives. 

We are Soul Full Sisters.
Our worth is not our weight.
We choose Healthy > Skinny.
Grace > Guilt.
Progress > Perfection.
Faith > Fear.

Play > Punishment
We’re choosing ourselves.

You’ve always had the faith.
Now you have the family.
Now you have the way.

You’re a Soul Full Sister now.
Go With Grace.

Pounds Donated

Last year, I donated 125 pounds of food to a local food bank to honor God for the 125 pounds I had lost. It was an incredibly meaningful experience. For many years, my relationship with food was unhealthy and destructive. Today, I’m grateful to use food in a way that brings nourishment, healing, and purpose.

Inside The Holy Weigh, we believe that serving others is a beautiful expression of gratitude for the healing God is doing in our lives.

That’s why we invite our members to take part in a simple but powerful tradition. For every pound we lose, we donate one pound of food to a local food bank.

We keep a running total of the food donated by our community so we can celebrate not only the changes happening in our own lives, but also the difference we’re making for others.

The Holy Weigh Members Victory Wall (Wall of Fame)

In The Holy Weigh, we celebrate every victory right alongside you.

When you achieve meaningful weight loss milestones (25 pounds, 50 pounds, 100 pounds) or reach your goal weight range, we’ll feature your smiling face and success story on our Victory Wall.

It’s our way of celebrating your hard work while inspiring other women walking the same journey.

Along The Holy Weigh, you’ll also earn fun rewards and recognition to keep the journey motivating, encouraging, and fun. We take fun seriously here at The Holy Mess.

You’ve tried doing this on your own long enough. This is the place where your next chapter begins.

Come Join Us

You are ready for a different kind of weight loss journey.

• You’re tired of starting over.
• You’re ready to stop fighting food and start healing your relationship with it.
• You’re ready for a weight loss journey that includes your faith, not ignores it.

You don’t have to do this alone anymore.

Inside The Holy Weigh, you’ll find guidance, encouragement, and a community of women walking the same path, understand the struggle, and believe change is possible.

You’ll find women who will celebrate every victory with you.

If you’re ready to lose weight with grace, faith, and support, we are ready to welcome you.

We invite you to The Holy Weigh.

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Answers to Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs) about The Holy Weigh

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