Perfectionism is highly valued in our culture.

I’ll stand up, raise my hand, and be the first one to admit I’ve half-mockingly, half-pridefully called myself a perfectionist to friends, in front of audiences, and in job interviews. It’s the one “bad” trait we think is mostly actually good, right?

After all, who wouldn’t want to have a perfectionist on the job team, cooking the holiday dinner, or running the show?

Here’s the Truth:

Perfectionism pushes people away from us — it does not draw them closer.

Perfectionism will ruin our holiday, and it will ruin it for those around us, too. This is why:

When we set the standard of perfection for ourselves, others around us cannot be less than perfect, either.

You Know What They Say About Perfectionism…or do you?

Perfection is self abuse of the highest order

Dear Self

The perfect is the enemy of the good.

What will relax our perfectionist ways?

Use these ideas:

  • Rest in Jesus’ perfection.

Jesus says,

“Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect.”

Matthew 5:48

Um…Say what?! Why is Jesus asking us to be perfect, when He knows full well we cannot? The key is in this verse:

“I delight greatly in the Lord;
    my soul rejoices in my God.
For he has clothed me with garments of salvation
    and arrayed me in a robe of his righteousness,
as a bridegroom adorns his head like a priest,
    and as a bride adorns herself with her jewels.”

Isaiah 61:10

When God looks at us, He doesn’t see us, He sees Jesus. As Christians, we are covered over in a robe of righteousness.

Jesus perfection covers our imperfections, once and forever. We rest in this.

  • Pour on the compassion. We give ourselves grace. Grace for those around us. Then we give some more. And again. When in doubt, may we err on the side of love.
  • Delegate! For goodness sake, let’s give some of that to-do list away, friends. We do not have to do it all, and we don’t even have to do most. Let’s let the kids wrap those gifts. So what if it is all crooked and uses half a roll of scotch tape. Next week the tape and scissors will have gone missing for all eternity anyway, so we might as well let the kids have their heyday.

Love, Me


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