For therapy today, our family piles on couches and chairs in the living room to watch a video.

Aaron, our attachment therapist, is showing our son a video and wants our family to watch it together.

We will watch a short video clip of a trip Jack Black took to Uganda with for the Red Nose Day Special. (See below for the clip.)

Aaron has warned us that this video could be triggering for our son.

We might see difficult behaviors, but Aaron feels this is important for him to watch. Our son can handle it with the right structure in place.

Aaron often uses videos as part of his therapy. Later we will watch Antwone Fisher, but my son isn’t ready for that intensity yet.

When Kids Act Entitled

Like many kids today, my son sometimes talks with a sense of entitlement, and Aaron is quick to catch this language and correct it. He tells our son that his backpack, his papers, his toys (things he fiercely demands and argues over with siblings and classmates) are not his.

All of my son’s items and treasured possessions belong to us as his parents, who worked for them. Until he gets a job and works for them himself, he has no right to claim them the way he has been.

Aaron also wants my son to appreciate what God has given him, which is why we are watching the video we will watch today.

Aaron prepares my son that this video is difficult, and they talk about ways to handle the emotions that might come up.

Then together, we watch about a boy who doesn’t have a family:

My Mom Could Die

After the video, Aaron asks us to share our thoughts. Our older teens share about how they realize it’s easy for us in the United States to take a good education for granted.

My husband and I both share our thankfulness for the many blessings we have.

My son is quiet. Aaron asks how he is processing what he saw. He slides down off the couch to fiddle with a toy pirate ship in a bucket at his feet. He doesn’t answer at first.

“The boy in the video?” my son says. “His mom died.”

“True.” Aaron said.

“My mom could died.”

“That’s true,” Aaron says, “I don’t think that will happen soon, but it is possible.”

“Then I will never see her again, and I miss her.” I realize then my son is talking about his birth mom.

“And you are worried about that.” Aaron responds.

“Yes,” my son answers, still concentrating on the toy in front of him.

“That’s an understandable concern,” Aaron tells him. “Lots of kids in your situation have those feelings. They feel guilty for feeling that way but they don’t need to feel guilty. That’s normal. They are worried about their birth parents and wonder how they are doing.”

Aaron continues, “Look at Felix. You are at a point that you have choices to make in your life. You’ve been given a lot. You have a family who loves you. You have parents here who care about you and are taking great care of you. Don’t throw away the opportunities you’ve been given. Every test you face in your life will make you bitter or better. Use it to make you better.”

Every Test in Your Life Makes You Bitter or Better|The Holy Mess

Update on Felix

While preparing this blog, I found a video which shows Felix now, one year later. No longer homeless, he is living in a foster home and goes to school. The difference is incredible.

Watch here:

Still StandingStill Standing|The Holy Mess

Bible Verse

For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.

Romans 6:23

Journal Prompt

Do you often feel that life treats you unfairly? Talk to God about it now.


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Every Test in Your Life Makes You Bitter or Better|The Holy Mess

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