This entry is part 18 of 32 in the series Still Standing

We are being challenged to make parenting paradigm shifts.

Aaron, our attachment therapist doing intensive work with our son, has been working with our family for awhile now.

Great courage is required when you allow someone to come into your home, watch you parent, and teach you how to do it a different way.

We are humbled.To Be Humble Requires Great Courage|The Holy Mess

We’ve had lots of people tell us we are awesome parents. This feels good, but it doesn’t fix what isn’t working.

Aaron is encouraging, but he also isn’t afraid to tell us what we need to change.

As we have dealt with our son’s behavior problems over the years, Mike and I have become more strict because we didn’t know what else to do. We were desperate.

Aaron’s methods are a challenge but a necessary one.

Today we talk about letting the cats out freely in the house again and trusting our son to see how he does. If it’s a problem, we’ll go back to more containment. The older kids aren’t too thrilled with the idea.

The day we have our water balloon fight, our son wanders into the garage with some of the neighborhood boys, and Bekah, our 19 year old, shoos them out. Aaron tells Bekah she doesn’t need to do that. Our son is just being a normal boy, showing off to his friends but not causing any harm. This is hard for Bekah to hear.

They dynamic has become so negative with our son and his siblings. I know some of this is the consequence of my son’s behavior, but some I feel is unfair.

Yet I understand their reactions. My son is hard to live with. He gets so much attention. The behaviors are exhausting. From a kid perspective, it’s got to be just down-right annoying.

But then at times the older kids’ corrections become overkill.

It is helpful for Aaron to say what I can’t say — or maybe I have said but it’s more powerful coming from him.

I try to be fair in the sibling squabbles and equally scold the kids, but it is exhausting when the squabbles are constant, and honestly a lot of the times our son IS the instigator and in the wrong.

Life with a high-needs child is not fair.

God is molding all of us through this experience.

Still Standing

Still Standing|The Holy Mess

Bible Verse

I will sing of the steadfast love of the Lord, forever;
    with my mouth I will make known your faithfulness to all generations.
For I said, “Steadfast love will be built up forever;
    in the heavens you will establish your faithfulness.”

Psalm 89:1-2

Journal Prompt

How do your words reflect your faith? Do your conversations lately show your love for Christ?

Resources

The Hope Toolbox: Printable Kit for Depression and SadnessMy Hope Toolbox

The Holiday Hope ToolboxThe Holiday Hope Toolbox

When You Are Humbled|The Holy Mess

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